Have you ever faced a situation where you almost have to beg your young ones to tell you the truth because you believe his answer was not what you really hope to hear? You keep on begging and then, come the magic phrase, “it is sinful to lie!”
If you are smiling as you read this line, I am smiling at you too.I already know the answer. We all did that. Often times, after repeating the same phrase our words fall on deaf ears. The phrase, “it is sinful to lie” become too common on your lips and your child’s ears yet, you still want to instill the same values. What options are you left with? Not much, but there are a few hadiths (Prophetic words from The Prophet Muhammad PBUH) and verses from the Quran that you can gently instill into your child’s mind. Reading them with your loved ones each day may not only help you with your mission, but also is rewarding and beneficial for both you and the family members.
Here are some prophetic words & Quran verses to replace your, “it is sinful to lie” phrase.
The first one is this, from surah Al-Baqarah verse 42, in which Allah say in a very subtle way, “And do not mix truth with falsehood, and do not conceal the truth while you know.(2:42)”It is a good reminder to instill into your child about speaking the truth especially on serious matters where truth is the objective we seek. When using the Quran verse, not only you are doing an ibadah for enlightening the family with Quranic values, but also leave your child with very little room to go continue exaggerating his lies.
Secondly, there is also a whole lot of a chapter from the Quran named Munafiqoon which means The Hypocrites. Here, the munafiqoon are given 3 characteristics one of which is the liars. I will not advice you to use this verse towards your child as it is quite harsh to call someone a munafiq (a hypocrite). Instead, inculcate to them the danger and Allah’s restriction for being a liar.
Not only the Quran teach us the characteristics of a hypocrite, but it also teaches us what it takes to be forgiven. In the chapter, Al-Ghafir, verse 28, Allah said that, “If he is a liar, his lying will rebound upon him; but if he is truthful, then some of what he promises you will befall you. God does not guide the extravagant imposter (40:28).” This verse can be the best one to replace your judgmental, “it is sinful to lie” phrase. It is good sometimes to teach the young ones the consequences of their own action so that they are more watchful of what they want to utter every time they speak.
Beside all the verses from the Quran, the Prophet Muhammad PBUH also once said, that those who tell lies are not among his followers (Riwayat Muslim). As a Muslim, we take our Prophet as our leader, hence, whatever that he forbid us to do must also be followed. Again, it is so noble to be able to teach your child this value rather than nagging. Ibnu Qayyim also once quoted that the tongue will show you what’s in his heart whether he likes it or not.
Lastly, I would also love to share this verse from the Quran as a reminder for us, especially parents that in the Holy Quran, Allah said in surah Al-Taghabun (64:15),”your possessions and your children are a test, but with God is a splendid reward.” In another chapter, Allah mentioned in surah Munafiqoon, verse 9: “O you who believe! Let neither your possessions nor your children distract you from the remembrance of God. Whoever does that-these are the losers (63:9)”. We should all take our time to ponder upon these verses from time to time as we grow our children. Most of all, why don’t we remind ourselves about these verses first before we share them with others? Despite being adults, we too need to correct ourselves from time to time, insyaAllah.